Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA)

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What is ACA?

Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA or ACoA), is as an international 12 Step recovery program for individuals who grew up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes.  ACA is based on the belief that the disease of alcoholism and family dysfunction infected us as children and continues to affect us as adults.

Who is an “Adult Child”?

An adult child is someone who meets the demands of life with survival techniques learned as children. Without help, we unknowingly operate with ineffective thoughts and judgments that can sabotage our decisions and relationships.

Who Attends our Meetings?

ACA is not limited to those from alcoholic homes. If you identify with traits from The Laundry List (below),  ACA might benefit you.

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Frequently Asked Questions

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Question #1

Do my parents need to be alcoholics?

No! If you can identify with The Problem or have several of the characteristics of the “Laundry List” ACA will benefit you.

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What is the cost?

ACA is self-help, self-supporting program and according to our Seventh Tradition we finance our own way. If you are financially able we ask for a small contribution at each meeting.

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How do I start a meeting?

If you checked the Meeting List and were unable to locate a meeting nearby, you may wish to start an ACA meeting in your town. It’s easy. Start by downloading the “Guidelines for a new meeting” from the Literature page. This will give you all the basic materials needed for establishing and running an ACA meeting. The ACA Fellowship Text also includes information on starting a new meeting.

The ACA Laundry List

These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional household.

  1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
  2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
  3. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
  4. We either become alcoholics, marry them, or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
  5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
  6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
  7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
  8. We become addicted to excitement.
  9. We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue”.
  10. We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (denial).
  11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
  12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
  13. Alcoholism is a family disease and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
  14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.

ACA News and Information

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Listen to the audio from the ACA Convention talks.  For personal listening use only. No sale or reproduction.

Report from the 2017ABC

Report from the 2017 Annual Business Meeting of ACA World and National organization. Also, see what happened with the proposals this year.

Mark Your Calendars

2018 ACA/AWC Convention on April 26-9, 2018:  Toronto, Canada.  “Becoming Your Own Loving Parent”

Visit www.acatoronto.org

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Classrooms closed due to re-painting
Two students join football team
Meeting about new campus area
Library project meeting

ACA News

Classrooms closed due to re-painting
Two students join football team
Meeting about new campus area
Library project meeting

ACA News

Classrooms closed due to re-painting
Two students join football team
Meeting about new campus area
Library project meeting

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